Look I'm not filing a claim with Star Command or anything I'm just saying that I could probably count the amount of times I've had sex in the last year on one hand.  It's just like that comedian had once said, it's not like we have a problem keeping the fire burning, we just have other things to do that captivate our attention more.  All the work and all the effort into _making love_ seems like something almost unrealistic. A majority of why "things don't happen" I believe is my appearance.  I don't dress as femmy as the I once had, and that was something that the Wife was really into.  Which I find a bit odd because had I been strictly adhered to the attraction of how she appeared when we first met, I wouldn't be attracted to her any longer.  Once upon a time my Wife said she always wore black and that is just how it was.  Now her wardrobe is bright and vibrant.  She wears pug shirts and has color on her body.  But it was my teeth as well that I think put her off as well.  Who wants to be kissing a ghoul.  Actually we don't kiss that often, I think she'll blame the fact that I smoke for that effect.  However everytime we would perhaps have a romantic encounter, I always brushed my teeth and used mouthwash. Perhaps I'm just not that attractive to her in general anymore.  I've been growing my hair as long as it will grow to try and regain my blip on her flirtatious radar.  Nothing seems to work.  Not trying to complain too much, all I'm stating is that I feel my sexual health is a bit off-balance.  I have pain like a mother fucker still, but it is different pain and from a different angle pain, but I've had a lot of time to think about a lot of things these last few days.