So today I finally let Cara know how much it upset me that she cannot be open about our relationship on Facebook.  I know it's simple and it's just Facebook but it really bothers me how active she is on there and not a mention of me in any sort of way.  It just hurts me to know that she enjoys having me around (or so it seems) but she doesn't like having the title of girlfriend, or the title of girlfriend with me.  I would assume it is the latter.  She doesn't want to have the conversation with her family about me yet, and I suppose that should be considered before getting all butt-hurt about the situation.  But at the same time, her family failed her big time when she was going through her divorce, and left her stranded and in the cold when she needed the help the most.  I just cannot wrap my head around that concept about how they have been acting towards her since the shit with her divorce popped off. So she's on some fuck my parents shit in regards to all sort of things.  She made it clear to me this morning that she feels that her whole family sort of paints her as the black sheep of the family and go out of their way to exclude her with things, while still showering the kids with all the love and attention they require.  It's playing the good guy to the children and something else completely with your own flesh and blood.  That is just something that I cannot seems to wrap my head around no matter how much I try and think about it.